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How to Tame a Worrying Mind During Difficult Times

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“Mental health is just as important as physical health.” ~Rohit Our main focus during this challenging time is quite rightly on our physical well-being. But we shouldn’t forget about our mental health considering these are stressful times for all of us. Will we get sick? Will our loved ones die? Will we have enough food to feed the family? How will we pay the bills? How long do we have to stay in? Will things ever get back to normal? So many questions, so many worries. Worrying used to keep me awake at night. It occupied every space of my mind during every waking minute. I always felt on the edge of a nervous breakdown. I didn’t feel like I could handle life at all. My life was like this for many years until I began to understand myself better. I healed my past traumas and learned to respond to myself in effective and compassionate ways. Some of what I’ve learned has helped a great deal during this time of uncertainty and unpredictability. This has resulte...

3 Negative Inner Voices and How to Challenge Them

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“Beautify your inner dialogue. Beautify your inner world with love light and compassion. Life will be beautiful.” ~Amit Ray iamrohit07.blogsopt.com There is no better way to feel good about yourself than changing your internal dialogue. Yes, you have the power to change your inner voice. You can choose to speak to yourself in a positive way or a negative way. Stop all activity for a moment. Be still. Notice what your inner voice is saying. Do you hear anything? If not, ask your inner voice this question: How does it feel to be still? Listen. Is your inner voice declaring that you are too busy to be chillin’? Or is it supporting you, happy to be playing this hanging-out-and-noticing game? Get to know your inner voice. Over the next few days stop and listen to your inner dialogue. Especially notice what your inner voice says as you are about to make a decision. Does it say, “I think, I can, I think I can” or does it say, “There is no way, I can’t do that, I can’t d...

4 Things Emotionally Intelligent People Don’t Do

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Give up these bad habits and your natural emotional intelligence will shine Most people think about emotional intelligence as a skill, something you can build and train with practice. And while this is partly true, there’s a deeper truth about emotional intelligence that most of us miss: Improving your emotional intelligence is often about what you do less of, not more of. As a psychologist, I work with many people who look like though they don’t have much emotional intelligence: They blame other people for their problems They trap themselves in cycles of stress and anxiety They self-sabotage as soon as they start to make progress But it’s my experience that most people don’t actually lack the capacity for emotional intelligence. In fact, I think most people already have a high degree of emotional intelligence. Unfortunately, many people are held back from using their innate emotional intelligence by a collection of bad habits that get in the way. If you’d lik...

5 Positive Lessons from the Coronavirus Crisis

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“What is to give light must endure the burning.” ~Viktor Frankl The world is facing challenging times of crisis. Closed borders and travel bans, quarantine, shortage of food supply, scary news, and much fear. Viruses don’t care about our status, money, or fame, spreading from state officials to famous actors. Being a human right now is not easy. My thoughts are with those who lost a family member or a friend. I can’t imagine the pain of those battling mental or emotional illnesses during dramatic life changes. Some are struggling to put food on the table. Some lost their jobs. Some are alone and afraid. During turbulent times of stress, I feel worried, sad, and confused. Meanwhile, I show up every single day and do the best I can to help myself, my loved ones, and my community. I keep myself informed from reliable sources and stay away from negativity and drama. With all the toxic news imparted to us over TV and social media channels, it takes some inner work to keep ourse...